Thursday 28 March 2013

Nelson Mandela back in hospital with lung infection

Former South African President Nelson Mandela has been re-admitted to hospital with a recurrence of a lung infection.

A statement from the South African presidency said Mr Mandela, 94, had been admitted just before midnight.

Mr Mandela spent 18 days in hospital in December undergoing treatment for a lung infection and gallstones.

He is widely regarded as the father of the nation for leading the struggle against apartheid.

Mr Mandela served as South Africa's first black president from 1994 to 1999. However, his health has caused concern for some time.

A presidential spokesman told the BBC that Mr Mandela was conscious and was receiving the best possible medical treatment.

"I think we need to be clear that the doctors are attending to Madiba [Mr Mandela] on a continuous basis," spokesman Mac Maharaj said.

"They prefer to act on the side of caution, and the moment they felt there was a recurrence of the lung infection, they felt that it warranted immediate hospitalisation given his age and given his history."

However, the BBC's Andrew Harding in South Africa says the abrupt nature of Mr Mandela's late-night admission is likely to raise concerns.

Appeal for prayers

The government statement said President Jacob Zuma wished Mr Mandela a speedy recovery.

"We appeal to the people of South Africa and the world to pray for our beloved Madiba and his family and to keep them in their thoughts. We have full confidence in the medical team and know that they will do everything possible to ensure recovery," President Zuma said.

The former president is often fondly referred to by his clan name, Madiba.

It is the fourth time Mr Mandela has been admitted to hospital in just over two years.

He first contracted tuberculosis in the 1980s while detained on the windswept Robben Island where he served 18 of the 27 years he was imprisoned for sabotage.

His lungs are said to have been damaged when he worked in a prison quarry.

Despite his long imprisonment, Mr Mandela forgave his former enemies and as president urged South Africans of all races to work together and seek reconciliation.

In 1993 he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize.

The treatment he received in December 2012 was his longest spell in hospital since leaving prison in 1990.

Earlier this month he spent a night in hospital following a check-up.

Mr Mandela retired from public life in 2004 and has been rarely seen in public since.

He lives in Qunu, a small rural village in Eastern Cape province, where he says he spent the happiest days of his childhood.

Saturday 16 March 2013

How To Make Your Husband Happy

A happy husband is a man who feels loved by his wife in all ways possible. In the beginning of a marriage there is romance, intimacy and warmth, but over time these feelings sometimes dissipate. It then becomes essential for a wife to do her part to strengthen the marital bond and to send reassurances her husband’s way that he is special.
There are ways to keep your husband happy for many years of marriage. The happier he is, the happier you will both be.
 
Paying Attention to Hubby
Women talk about and express their feelings more than do men, but remember that men have feelings too. A man can go through a range of emotions from the start of the day to the end of a day. It is vital that a wife pays attention to her husband’s feelings and is sensitive to them. When there is an issue that needs to be discussed involving feelings, sit down and discuss it together.
Never discount the importance of physical closeness during these moments. There is no substitute for a kiss or a hug that communicates the message: I am in your corner.
Criticism and nagging do not make for a happy husband. It is not always easy to hold your tongue but learn to separate the small issues from the larger ones and let petty things go.
So maybe he never fills up the windshield washer fluid in the car when it is running low or he always leaves the newspaper open on the dining room table. These are not major problems. Refrain from nagging. In fact, nagging often causes the action to get worse, not better.
Keep in mind that you may do things that bother him too. Consider yourselves even in that regard and move on.
A happy husband is a man who knows his wife is proud of him. He knows this because his wife makes it a practice to tell him all of the time. But she knows not to go overboard and make the gesture seem phony. A simple, “Wow you are amazing!” can make a man glow with pride.

The wife who knows how to make her husband happy also knows that public acknowledgment is also important. She praises him when she is amongst family and friends and makes sure he knows it. A happy husband likes to have his ego stroked as often as possible.
 
Happy Sex Life, Happy Husband
To keep your husband happy and keep the zest and zing in your marriage, realize that sex is extremely important to men. Make sex a top priority and your hubby will be smiling from sun up to sun down.
This is an area where men and women often differ. Men need the rush of physical intimacy to feel emotionally connected to their wives. A happy husband is one who is getting his needs met in the bedroom and who knows that he is satisfying his wife as well. For men sex is high on the list of priorities, and is analogous to the need for food.

It is not always easy for a wife to understand how her sex drive differs from her husband’s. She must make a concentrated effort to get inside his head and figure out where he is coming from in this regard.
Develop a flair for the unexpected and send surprises his way whenever you can. Send the kids to spend a night at their grandparent’s house and cook a special meal for him, but don’t tell him about it beforehand. Make it your secret surprise. Add some candles, wine and a little French maid’s outfit as you meet him at the front door. What husband would not welcome that kind of homecoming?
Leave him a note under his pillow, next to the coffee maker or on the seat of his car telling him how much you love and appreciate him. For ego using a pen and instead think outside the box—use your favorite lipstick! If he carries a briefcase to work, stuff a little note inside with your lipstick print and spritz your favorite perfume on it. He will be so focused on how happy a husband you make him that he will have a difficult time concentrating at the board meeting

Surprise your husband with his favorite treat such as cupcakes with cream cheese frosting or brownies when he least expects it; this sends the message that you are in tune with what he likes.
Men appreciate being the focal point and love it when their wives know them well enough to care about the little touches that add specialness and “frosting” to life. A small gift from time to time just to show him how much you love and value him is always welcome. You are getting the point across that “I love you and our love is strong.”
Love Language
Show respect for your husband. Pay attention to the words you use when you speak to him and the intonation of the words. Perhaps you meant to say something pleasant but it came out in a sarcastic manner. Men are as attuned to the nuances of speech as women, so be aware of how you say things and be sure to apologize if you are in the wrong.
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